That's a lot of Ego
Transactional Analysis is a very accessible theory of modern psychology. It's been a great tool for me to engage in "Adult-to-Adult" conversations. The following 10 minute video is a great introduction to the concepts.
It's an obvious statement to say that Leadership is largely about people. However, attending Greg Witz's Leadership workshop was a great way to learn by doing. As pre-work, we were asked to have our colleagues answer multiple choice questions to determine what our predominate ego states are.
I gravitate towards "Spontaneous Child" ego state. When working with others I sometimes find myself in the "Nurturing Parent" ego state.
This works great when we're in a pinch and need to rally the troops towards a common goal.
However, I've learned that this can sometimes trigger negative reactions. For example, the "Critical Parent" ego state may see the "Nurturing Parent" or "Spontaneous Child" as either insincere or manipulative.
In these interactions, I find it's more productive if I stick to the "Adult" ego state - focusing on results and facts. It's a deliberate choice on how I communicate, without changing who I am.
As a Star Trek geek, I noticed many examples of the various ego states in the show. I've tried to find video clips that demonstrate how various ego states start out, and change through the interaction.
Hope you enjoy them as much as I do.